You must have been troubled by when to say “I love you” because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.
What if you say it first and your partner doesn't love you back? Or if they do say it, but you don't feel they mean it? Being the first to declare your love can be very nervous and risky and can leave you feeling as vulnerable as a turtle with no shell. But is the person who says it first really in a position of weakness? Doesn't it pay to hold back, play it cool and wait until the other half has shown their hand fast?
“A really good relationship should be about being fair and being equal,” says psychologist Sidney Crown. “But love is seldom equal.” All relationships go through power struggles but, he says, if a love imbalance continues for years, the trouble will set in. “That feeling of ‘I've always loved you more' may be subverted(破坏) for a time, but it never goes away completely and it often emerges in quarreling.” In love, at least, the silent, withholding type is not always the most powerful. “The strongest one in a relationship is often the person who feels confident enough to talk about their feelings,” says educational psychologist Ingrid Collins. Psychosexual therapist Paula Hall agrees, “The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative. In fact, the person who says ‘I love you' first may also be the one who says ‘I'm bored with you' first.” Hall believes that much depends on how “I love you” is said and the motivation of the person saying it. “Is it said when they're drunk? Is it said before their partner sets off on holiday, and what it really means is ‘please don't be unfaithful to me'? By saying ‘I love you', they are really saying ‘Do you love me?' If so, wouldn't it just be more honest to say that?” Collins agrees that intention is everything. “It's not what is said, but how it's said. What it comes down to is the sincerity of the speaker.”
1.What is the main idea of this passage?
A.The importance of “I love you”.
B.The meaning of “I love you”.
C.The time of saying “I love you”.
D.The place of saying “I love you”.
2.In the first sentence the author means that .
A.it is easy to say “I love you”
B.it is hard to say “I love you”
C.we have many troubles in our life
D.people usually do not know when to say “I love you”
3.According to Sidney Crown, a good relationship should be .
A.fair and equal
B.fair and kind
C.powerful and equal
D.confident and fair
4.In the third paragraph, the phrase “with the upper hand” means .
A.being low in spirit
B.having only one hand
C.being active
D.being passive
5.What is the most important for you to consider when somebody say “I love you” to you?
A.The intention.
B.The place.
C.The time.
D.The determination.
【参考答案】
1.
[考点]主旨大意题
【精析】C 文章第一段就点明主旨,即when to say “I love you”。接着第二段和第三段围绕着这个主题展开,主要讲述了说“我爱你”的时机,是采取主动还是处于被动,以及说话者的动机。故选C。
2.
[考点]推理判断题
【精析】D 根据第一段“You must have been troubled by when to say ‘I love you' because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.”可知,人们经常因何时说“我爱你”而烦恼,因为这是我们生活中的一大难题。由此可推知,人们不知道应在何时说“我爱你”。故选D。
3.
[考点]事实细节题
【精析】A 根据第三段第一句“A really good relationship should be about being fair and being equal…”可知,Sidney Crown认为真正良好的两性关系应该是公平和平等的。故选A。
4.
[考点]词语理解题
【精析】C 根据第三段第七句“The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative.”可知,占上风的人往往是积极主动的人,与选项C(积极主动,活跃)意思相近。故选C。
5.
[考点]事实细节题
【精析】A 根据第三段最后三句“Collins agrees that intention is everything…of the speaker.”可知,动机最重要。故选A。
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